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Kegels for men? Oh yes! Kegel exercises for men are just as important as toning those Kegels is for the ladies. Here’s how it’s done.
TOUCH. PAUSE. CLENCH.
Gentlemen, can we have your attention please. Your penis needs an exercise, and not the kind you think! You need to know how to do Kegel exercises for men. Your health and sexual performance will thank you for it. We know many of you are doing your best to break a sweat in the gym, but Kegels – an anytime, anywhere type of workout – can be done in a matter of a few minutes. No gym equipment required!
SO WHAT IS KEGEL?
Well Kegel was actually a person. Arnold Kegel, an Iowa gynecologist, invented the Kegel perineometer – an instrument that measures the contraction strength of pelvic floor muscles. During his research in the 1940s, Kegel also figured out the pelvic floor could be exercised, and the muscle set has now become his namesake.
THE BENEFITS OF KEGELS
Like massaging your prostate, doing your Kegels provides an alluring trifecta of health, pleasure, and psychological advantages. Manly Kegels mean an increase in your sexual stamina with stronger, longer-lasting erections and more intense orgasms.
Kegel exercises for men are a great way to improve the overall health and hardness of your penis, along with increasing your ability to last longer in bed – the benefit all men are searching for! Kegel exercises for men provide relief from urinary incontinence – or, more simply put, post-urination dribbling – and improvement of blood flow through the penis, which goes a long way in combating erectile dysfunction and keeps you feeling hard. Kegel exercises for men can even help you become multi-orgasmic! Which man wouldn’t want that?
Know The Know-How!
Although you don’t need to invest in a fully equipped gym, before you begin you need to locate your PC muscles. How do you do this?
When you cut off your stream during urination, the muscle contracting to prevent further urine flow is what’s called a PC muscle. Now that you have found your PC muscle, you can learn how to do Kegel exercises for men – it’s a truly magnificent exercise that can be done on the couch, at your desk, in the car, or even as you read this article.
He’ll love strengthening his lovemaking muscles with the Kegel8 V for men.
Hold five seconds, and then release and relax for five seconds. To get things started and to get into routine, repeat this motion 15 times, three times a day (and remember, you can do it anywhere). After a few weeks of doing your reps, you will need to increase your workout, the same as when training at the gym.
With weightlifting, you’d increase weight over time. With Kegels, you can increase WAIT over time – meaning you hold your PC contraction at longer intervals, 10 or even 20 seconds a rep.
Add an extra boost to your new workout routine with our Kegel 8V for men, which turns pelvic muscles from lazy to lothario. While doing your Kegels, be sure to flex just your PC muscles, not your abs, thighs or butt. Contracting other muscles can lessen the effect of each Kegel.
The Multiple Male Orgasm Starter Pack!
Once your PC muscle is strong like an ox, you’ll have the ability to stop yourself from ejaculating before you’re ready to give up the pleasuring. To do this, you’ll need to be able to hold a tight Kegel contraction for at least 10 seconds.
Once you can do that in your sleep, try the our method for delaying ejaculation. Kegel right before you hit the “point of no return” – this is where semen starts moving through your penis and ejaculation is inevitable. Hold the contraction for roughly 10 seconds or more. After the urge to ejaculate has gone away, release the Kegel.
The hard part is building up your PC muscle so it’s strong enough to withstand the pressure and power of ejaculating. This process may actually take you anywhere from a few weeks to months to even years to master in bed.
Many men report that learning exactly when to do Kegel exercises is another hard part of the process. Practice makes perfect and we know these men aren’t complaining about the many attempts it may take when the end result is well worth it.
Remember, Kegels Aren’t Just For Men…
Kegels can be done by both men and women. Add a volume of pleasure to any bedroom play and teach your partner to do Kegels!
If a woman squeezes her PC muscle during intercourse, her vagina tightens and leaves everyone involved feeling a satisfaction like no other. Get some kegel toys for her to help tighten those muscles and lead to stronger orgasms.
As far as we’re concerned, Kegels are the best-kept secret when it comes to male (and female) sexual health and wellness practices that are as effective as they are easy.
PLAYTIME HAS NEVER BEEN SO NAUGHTY!
Anal sex is usually not the first thing that comes to mind when thinking of mutually pleasurable things to do with a partner. He may want to give it a try, but she’s not so sure… Contrary to many opinions, it can actually be an incredibly pleasurable experience for ANYONE if done right! Well, as the urban sex legend goes, guys want it because they’ve heard it’s tighter than normal sex and they’ve seen it in porn, and girls occasionally give in as a bargaining chip/reward/very special birthday present. Plenty of women actually just love the feeling, full stop! Anyone can experiment with anal – and enjoy it. In fact, anal sex is the primary form of sex in some countries where birth control is not available to them. it’s not something that should be rushed into. If you’re a beginner, take it slow and sexy with some of our easy bottom play tips.
PREPARATION, THEN PLEASURE
We bet you’re wondering if it hurts? Well, this is where lube – water based lube, more specifically – comes into play. Lube is essential for comfortable (and safe) anal sex. For a good orgasm-inducing experience, the more lube the better – for him and for her. As we like to say, things get extra sexy when slippery.
Condoms are also a non-negotiable. Although there is no risk of pregnancy during anal sex, STIs are still abundant. If you are in a monogamous relationship and frequently get tested, condoms can help to minimise clean up and the bacteria spread.
START SMALL, AND SEXY
Most people require some feverish foreplay before vaginal penetration is smooth and saucy. It’s no different with anal penetration. Take time to tickle around the outside of the rectum while going down on your partner. The more you engage in anal stimulation erotically, the more thrilling it will be to that part of the body over time.
The whole point of anal play is to keep it simple before working up to hot and heavy nights. Start with fingers, tongues or a sex toy designed for anal play. Despite its naughty name, the Dr Deep Anal Vibrator is a great toy to start playing with. Or, invest in a tempting anal plug to explore the different sensations. There shouldn’t be any rapid-fire movement immediately. Vigorous jamming of fingers anywhere should not happen the instant you start experimenting. So much of sex is fast, especially in the eroticism of porn, but anal play has to be prepped for – it’s a build-up of sensations.
VARY UP POSITIONS
No, not all anal play needs to be done doggy style. There are a variety of intimate, steamy positions to try. It’s best to move around until you find one that makes you feel good and most satisfied! Here are a few positions to get you going:
Missionary Couples, adjust your missionary position for amazing anal sex. Add supporting cushions under her hips to create a better angle. Bend her legs at his chest or place them over his shoulders for an even more fulfilling sensation. From there, it’s all about the mood. With slow rhythm and the gentle massaging of each other’s bodies, it can be intimate and sensual. With restraints and dirty talk, your old favourite becomes your kinky new one.
Spooning There’s nothing quite as enjoyable as turning an early morning cuddle into slow sex. This position incorporates rear-entry, which works for many lovers – it’s a slower, more intimate experience. Close enough to kiss each other, your hands remain free to stimulate and touch all over.
The cowgirl This is one of the most highly-enjoyed sex positions by women because it lets her control the speed and depth of thrusting. Being on-top can be a great anal sex position, too. Place her legs on the mattress on either side of him and set the speed. He can use his hands to move as he cups her bottom and she can wrap her legs around him for extra support.
IT MAY BE DIRTY – BUT IN THE WAY WE LIKE IT
It’s not a dirty sex deed. The anus and the lower part of the rectum actually have very little goods in them, which means it tends to not be nearly as dirty as you think. Plus this should leave plenty of room for some dirty talking and even more pleasure!
BED-RATTLING ANAL SEX
As with any type of playtime, anal sex or otherwise, some will work better for certain couples, based on their bodies as well as what kind of pleasure suits them best! It’s important to take anal slowly and prepare for it, to make sure that it’s absolutely pleasurable for both partners. After some slow and steady practicing, the ultimate bottom-end orgasm may even be achieved!
Make Her Come
Let’s be frank: men can climax easily – mostly every time they have sex or masturbate (unless there is an underlying issue). A male’s orgasm is after all, vital to the continuation of the human species, so it makes sense that emotionally and physically, they are geared towards guaranteed orgasms. For women, it’s different.
We get contacted almost every day by men who don’t know how to make their significant other reach orgasm. It’s because the female orgasm is a more complex beast: each woman needs unique stimulation, a combination of different stimulations and (again, generally speaking), the correct mental and emotional state of mind. Shew.
A Planned Parenthood study says that 1 in 3 women have trouble reaching orgasm during sex. It’s not unusual, therefore, for women to struggle.
However, that doesn’t mean there aren’t steps you can take to increase your partner’s frequency of orgasms. Here are a few tips we think may help.
Turn Her On
Most women need to be in the mood for sex. The brain is the biggest sexual organ, and for women, feeling sexy and in a sexual space is vital to achieving climax.
So how do you get her there? Foreplay, teasing, and touching. Talk to her about what you want to do to her. Kiss her on her neck, behind her ears and slide her finger in your mouth. Spend time (lots of time!) licking her lips and stroking her inner thighs.
Build up the anticipation and desire and you’ve won half the battle.
Your lady will naturally self-lubricate, but the feeling of wetness that lube provides will instantly up the ante. Lubricant will excite her more and up her sensitivity – all the ingredients needed for climaxing. We love Pjur Woman (preservative and perfume free), Pjur Bodyglide lubricant and Pjur Aqua (water-based, so non-sticky).
The majority of women don’t climax from intercourse alone. Your partner’s clit is, therefore, hugely important to her satisfaction. However, with 8000 nerve endings, this love button can become too sensitive very quickly.
So don’t be overly enthusiastic in your attentions to this area. Start off slow and light and constantly ask your partner to tell you what she wants. Many women are too shy to verbalise this, so make her feel comfortable and ask her questions. “Do you like this?” “Would you like it harder or faster?” “How about this position?” “Do you prefer this… or this?”
Very soon, you will be touching her in the way she likes.
Ask Her To Take Over
Although many women may feel too shy to do this, watching her masturbate can give you invaluable information about how she likes to be touched. Try lying next to her to start off with, and guide her hand to her clit. Keep your hand cupping hers as she rubs herself. Whisper in her ear that you love knowing she’s pleasuring herself. Ask her very nicely if you can get a closer look. Re-affirm that you are loving the show. Tell her how sexy you find it.
Try Out Your Tongue
Oral sex is a wonderful way to get your lady writhing with pleasure – according to sexologists at the Masters & Johnson Institute, oral sex is the most reliable route to orgasm for 80% of women.
Again take it slowly and gently, and build up pressure and movement according to her instructions. Insert your finger and massage her G-Spot (about 5 – 8 cm inside her vagina) with a come hither motion. Breathe on her. Tell her that you want to know what she likes.
Lou Paget suggests:
With one hand, pull up her clitoral hood. Then lick from side to side across its base, just above her clitoris. Place one finger of the other hand on her perineum (the area directly below the opening of her vagina). When you can feel her pre-orgasmic contractions, you’ll know you’re in the right place.
Keep Up The Technique
If there is one way to distract your lady, or lose her build-up, it’s to change positions or techniques too frequently. If you find something she likes, keep going until she climaxes. Try out something new for the next orgasm attempt.
Try Out Toys
Vibrators are almost a guaranteed orgasm, and we suggest using these to make sure she is satisfied. She can hold it against herself while you’re inside her, or you can lie next to her, and hold it on her while you kiss her deeply. These are our top choices:
Womanizer2Go: petite, yet powerful (this pocket rocket has 6 intensity modes), this gadget will almost guarantee an orgasm. Use this on your lady, or get her to use it on herself, while you watch (and play with yourself).
Mini-vibrators: Discreet, small and playful (therefore non-threatening), this toy will vibrate on her sweet spot and send her into orgasm ecstasy!
Lubes and lotions: In seconds, a lubricant can make her more erotically sensitive, which can only help to make her climax. Wetter really is better.
The main thing to remember is time and generosity. Make the next 10 love-making sessions about her. Focus on making her climax and it is likely that she will. Once she has come, it’s your turn to receive pleasure – and she is more likely to want to share the joy if you have lavished attention on her.
How To Become An Amazing Lover
The secret to being an absolutely amazing lover is a simple, and fun, one. The trick is to masturbate regularly, and encourage your partner to masturbate too. That’s right. And make sure that you masturbate to orgasm at least most of the time (edging can be fun too, and can add to your repertoire, but that’s a topic for another post).
Learn Your Pleasure
The trick to making masturbation work for you as a lover is to love yourself. Don’t just go for the same old tricks every time, and don’t try to push yourself into a ‘quickie’.
Treat yourself to the time and effort you’d show a partner. Try new things, add in different toys and enhancers. Heck, start things off with a romantic movie and an erotic bath if you feel like it. Why not? If you can learn to give yourself this kind of attention and pleasure, you’ll certainly get better at doing it for a partner.
Plus, you really do deserve it, and believing that you deserve pleasure is just as important a part of being a good lover as believing your partner does. Get to know your body and how it responds to different stimuli. Find out all the different ways you can orgasm (trust us, there are many), and the different ways your body behaves while you’re building up to and experiencing orgasm. Touch yourself all over, in the places you know you like to be touched, and in places you are hardly ever touched. Figure out which work best for you.
Masturbate To Understand Your Orgasm
When you know your body and you’re relaxed about how it responds, you can understand just what turns you on and what turns you off. You can confidently communicate that to a partner, making it so much easier for them to give you pleasure. You can help your partner by guiding their hands, toys or other body parts to the places you like to be touched. You can use your own hands to help them too. This not only makes sex easier, it makes it a hell of a lot sexier too. And when you do this, you give your partner permission, and confidence, to do the same.
The Sexiest Foreplay
As a confident masturbator, you’ll know that watching your partner masturbate, and having them watch you, is both incredibly sexy and a wickedly easy way to get to know exactly how to be the best lover they’ve ever had. Watching someone masturbate gives you an immediate understanding of what turns them on best, and how they like to build up to orgasm. Plus, it’s a great way to get in the mood for partnered sexy time. So now you know the best way to practice being an amazing lover… What are you waiting for? Go get ’em, tiger!
Ah, the orgasm. What makes it so delicious? And what can we do to make it feel even better? Firstly, we need to know what happens to our bodies when we orgasm to figure out how we improve the experience.
For more information on this, we can look at the studies of famous sex researchers William H. Masters and Virginia E. Johnson, who tracked all the changes that happened in a woman’s body in their seminal work Human Sexuality. This is what they found:
- During foreplay, blood rushes to your vagina and clitoris
- Vaginal walls secrete beads of lubrication which get bigger and flow together
- Breathing speeds up, heart rate increases and nipples become erect
- The lower part of the vagina narrows to grip the penis while the upper part expands to give space
- Nerve and muscle tension build up
- Your body involuntarily releases the tension as the uterus, vagina and anus contract simultaneously at 0.8-second intervals. Boom! Orgasm central!
Apparently, women can increase their orgasm strength (and increase the pleasure of their partners) by practising Kegel exercises.
We asked Dr. Elna McIntosh, a clinical sexologist at the DISA clinic in Johannesburg, for her opinion.
“The single most important exercise for a woman’s sexual health is Kegel exercises,” says Dr. McIntosh. “However, it is extremely important for women to do it correctly, otherwise they may cause more damage than good.”
Dr. McIntosh states that Kegel exercises help to strengthen a woman’s PC (pubococcygeus) muscle. This muscle forms a figure-eight outlining the vaginal and anal opening.
“Strengthening this muscle has a host of benefits,” says Dr. McIntosh. These include:
- Orgasms become stronger for men and women
- There is more control over sensation during intercourse
- It’s easier to reach orgasm; you feel more when you need to, and less when you want. More control over the sexual experience, a feeling of power
- Childbirth can be easier, more controlled, leading to fewer complications.
- The vagina heals more quickly from the effects of childbirth.
- Partner feels more during intercourse – can pull and squeeze penis with vaginal walls.
- Prevent/stop incontinence/prolapsed uterus.
- Men can have harder erections. Men can have harder erections. Men can have harder erections.
So, great benefits to exercising your PC muscles then! But how do you know what they are, and how do you do it? Dr. McIntosh suggests the below:
How to find your PC muscle:
- Sit on the toilet with your legs parted slightly.
- Allow yourself to start the flow of urine.
- Stop the flow – Remember that feeling.
How to work the PC muscle:
Dr. McIntosh recommends the following exercise routine:
- Find a time each day to practice (i.e. driving to work, on the bus, in the shower, watching TV, at a boring meeting). No one will ever know.
- Commit to this time each day.
Do your reps: Basic:
- Get comfy, breathe slowly.
- Squeeze and hold for 10 seconds.
- Relax for 10 seconds.
- Repeat 2 more times.
Shake it up
Alternative A: Advanced
- Squeeze lightly – hold 5 seconds
- Squeeze stronger – hold 5 seconds
- Squeeze really tight – hold 5 seconds
- Reverse Relax – Do this 10 times
- Take a break – Repeat 2 more times.
Of course, this can be difficult to remember to do while you are at work, or shopping for your supper.
Instead, Kegel Balls Can Do The Work For You
- Something like Yoni Eggs or Je Joue Ami Kegel Balls will work well for this.
- Put the Ben Wa balls inside and walk around holding them in. They are a great way to mix up the sensation and advance your training.
- Do them while you masturbate.
No Quick Fix
Dr. McIntosh stresses that there is no quick fix when it comes to Kegel exercises. “It takes dedication. But don’t give up! Even doing Kegels on a somewhat regular basis can help you get greater feeling, control and stronger orgasms within 6 weeks,” she said.
Tips And Tricks:
- Don’t do Kegels while urinating – just use urination to understand the feeling of flexing the PC.
- Put a finger in vagina and clench, you can feel the muscles working.
- Men can practice by putting a towel over their penis when they have an erection and then attempting to move their penis up and down. They can train up by adding weight just by wetting the towel more each time.
- Never use your back, anal, stomach, or buttock muscles.
- Women with prolapsed bladder or uteri should not use kegel balls.
Erotic sex stories, literotica, porn prose: whatever you call it, there’s nothing wrong with indulging in some racy reading every now and then – particularly as it can lead to a better time in between the sheets.
Don’t believe us? Our claims are backed by science: women who read erotica have a jaw dropping 74 percent more sex with their partner than those who don’t (according toThe Journal of Sex Research). And, not only are they having more sex, they’re having better sex. This is all as a result of indulging in some risqué reading, as women are more likely to be adventurous and playful with their partner in the bedroom.
While having hotter sex is obviously fabulous, we’ve put together four other reasons why you should be reading erotic sex stories.
#1- It creates a delicious connection between the mind and the body
Of course, reading goes hand in hand with the imagination, but did you know that this has particular benefits when reading erotic sex stories? It even has an academic term: bibliotherapy.
Bibliotherapy describes the deliciously delightful mind and body reactions that take place from reading sexy stories. It only takes 30 to 45 minutes of reading erotic sex stories for a chemical reaction to be triggered in the female brain, which leads to increased arousal. Think of it as the perfect aphrodisiac.
In fact, some sex therapists are even recommending that their patients regularly read erotica to help ignite couples’ sex drives. Well, if it’s what the doctor ordered…
#2 – It allows you to to indulge your fantasies and experience hotter sex
If you’ve ever fantasised about being in a luxury New York penthouse apartment and having hot, steamy stand up sex against the window then erotica can help bring those fantasies to life (well, unless you have a real Christian Grey on speed dial). Fantasies allow us to forget any anxieties, making us less inhibited and more in tune with our pleasure.
Plus, reading such stories is a brilliant way to explore your fantasies and get some tips along the way. The same study from The Journal of Sex Research found that women who frequently fantasise partake in a wider variety of erotic activities and have more fun in bed because sex stories allow you to shed your inhibitions, feel more confident, and get creative.
#3 – You can find out what really works to reach orgasm (from the sexperts)
Just as reading erotic sex stories can give you some tips and allow you to reenact certain scenarios, it can also give you some new ideas that you’ll want to try at home with yourself. How? Because the authors of these stories haven’t just plucked these ideas out of thin air. They’ve done their research and know how the female body works.
So, picking up a naughty book is definitely recommended if you’re looking for new ways to explore your own sensuality and head straight to O-town. It’ll be devilishly fun, we promise.
#4 – It’s a mood booster
There’s no way that picking up a sex story will leave you feeling sad and depressed. Erotic sex stories will always have a happy ending (and yes, we do mean that kind of happy ending).
Plus, it’s guaranteed to put you in the mood for the real thing. Dr. Susan Kellogg, a medical sexologist, states that women are more easily aroused when they have a ‘library’ of erotic literature to refer back to. She also says that reading erotic sex stories has a general psychological effect: fantasising releases chemicals like dopamine and testosterone, which promotes happiness. So, what are you waiting for? Get reading and unleash your sexual desire.
We know we don’t need to convince you to have sex: we’re biologically wired to procreate and it feels pretty darn good. But did you know there are actual health benefits to having regular orgasms?
When you orgasm, you release a hormone called Oxytocin (aka, the love hormone) from an area in the brain called the hypothalamus. There have been numerous scientific studies done around the effects of this hormone, and the benefits are amazing.
Oxytocin, along with a rush of endorphins released during climax, is clearly then very good for you. We were interested to read a report created by Planned Parenthood on “The Health Benefits of Sexual Expression”. This is what they had to say.
- Orgasms enhance your well-being
Studies have shown that regular orgasms make you feel happier, improve your immunity, manage pain and may even reduce your risk of heart disease and cancer.
- Orgasms make you live longer
A study in Caerphilly, South Wales, examined the relationship between regular orgasms and mortality rates. After 10 years, the researchers found that the risk of dying was 50 % lower among men who had two or more orgasms per week than among men who had less than one a month. Other studies have been done in Sweden and North America which all prove that there is a link between regular orgasms and longer life.
- Orgasms reduce the risk of Heart Disease, Stroke and Type-2 Diabetes
The same study from South Wales also found a relationship between frequent play time and lower incidences of “fatal coronary events”. Testosterone (important to the sex drive in men and women) helps reduce the risk of heart attack and even harm to coronary muscles when heart attacks do happen.
According to the Planned Parenthood study, orgasms help to decrease the hip to waist circumference in both men and women – which is considered to be a powerful measure of coronary heart disease risk. A study in Israel of 100 women found a correlation between lack of orgasm and history of heart attacks. Amazing!
- Orgasms decrease the risk of other diseases too!
We’re talking breast and prostate cancer here. Regular orgasms not only reduce the risk of these diseases, but also bolsters your immune system.
- Orgasms help you sleep
We can thank good old Oxytocin for this. It’s been found that the love hormone and surge of endorphins act as sedatives – which ensures a better night’s sleep. So, chuck away those sleeping pills and give yourself a daily orgasm instead. Sounds way more fun to us.
- Orgasms keep you looking young
This has been proven by a study. Over a decade. For reals. On average, the people determined to look the youngest and age the best reported having sex three times a week. Over the course of 10 years, the panel of judges regularly underestimated their ages by 7 to 12 years. Incredible.
- Orgasms keep you slim and trim
Yes, orgasms burn calories and fat. It’s also been found that people who are more sexually active tend to eat more healthily than those who aren’t. Check out Matilda’s Bedroom Guide to Calorie Burninghere! A teaser: reaching orgasm (excluding foreplay and sex itself) can burn up to 200 calories, which equals half a cup of Ben & Jerry’s Light Raspberry Chocolate Chunk Ice Cream with 1 teaspoon of fudge sauce AND a cherry on top.
- Orgasms keep your reproductive system healthy
Hormone levels are directly related to your ability to fall in love, your libido, and your arousal. Having regular orgasms are excellent for:
- Endometriosis: The Planned Parenthood Report quotes studies that found that women who have sex and orgasm during menstruation are less likely to develop endometriosis.
- Fertility: For those battling to fall pregnant, regular orgasms may enhance fertility by regulating menstrual patterns. According to the study, having sex four or more times a week gives you an 80% chance of conceiving within 6 months! For women, climaxing after your partner comes means you will retain more sperm, increasing chances of fertilization.
- Sperm quality: Men need to come regularly to keep their sperm count and quality high. Masturbation is good for you, men!
- It helps with your period: Orgasms relieve period pain and regulate your cycle.
- Orgasms are nature’s pain medication
Studies have proven that regular orgasms increase endorphins and corticosteroids that raise pain thresholds and ease pain associated with arthritis, menstrual cramps, migraine and a host of other conditions.
- Orgasms keep you mentally strong
The more orgasms you have, the better your quality of life. Regular orgasms increase self-esteem, reduce depression, psychiatric illness and even suicide. Pleasure also inhibits the propensity to be violent. Orgasms reduce stress and anxiety, stimulates feelings of affection intimacy and closeness, increases bonding with your partner and even helps you perform better in social situations.
Orgasms are good for you. Have more of them. As often as you can!
Want to see what products we have on offer than can help you climax more often? Here are our top choices:
This flexible couples toy will have you heading back to the bedroom time and again. The Doppio can be positioned in multiple ways for use during foreplay and penetration. The flexible arms give a perfect fit around the penis for stimulation to the entire vulva and clitoris, with added buzz on the scrotum. Three separate motors and seven patterns create endless combinations of pleasure for both partners. Two motors on the ‘ears’ work in tandem for clitoral or perineal stimulation, while the base motor can be switched on or off separately to add to the fun. This waterproof couples vibrator in soft-touch smooth silicone is your perfect partner for nights of endless orgasm.
When you’re in the mood for spontaneous play, our wireless vibrating panties put partner pleasure first. These panties are ultra powerful and come with a 2-button remote control that puts your partner in the drivers seat. There’s a hidden pocket in the panty and the stretchy lace thong is comfortable and sexy, keeping your toy in place while you play. These vibrating panties can be controlled up to 10 meters away and the batteries are replaceable for repeat fun whenever you want it. These panties can be worn during a dirty dinner, a raunchy date night or a night out on the town. They’re your little secret and offer instant pleasure outside of the bedroom.
With an egg-shaped design, the Tente anal plug by BS Atelier is shaped for maximum anal stimulation. This curvy plug is super flexible, making it a top contender for ultra comfortable anal fun. This toy measures 8cm in height with a width of 3cm and is great for adventurous pleasure seekers. It has a narrow neck that encourages your muscles to hold it in place while you play, making it ideal for extended wear. This colourful handcrafted plug is firm and perfect for hands-free fun. You can use it during sex or before as a warm-up, and it’s great for a satisfying solo session, too. This plug is a great size for beginners and we always suggest adding heaps of high quality lubricant if you’re using this plug for bottom pleasure.
This superb cream will help stimulate your G-Spot, leading to new levels of intense sexual arousal. The Rain of Love G-Spot cream can even help you achieve multiple orgasms during one sexy session of self-discovery. The handy guide that’s included will assist you and your lover with exploring positions that will arouse the g-spot and rejuvenate your love-life. Reach ultimate pleasure with Shunga Rain of Love G-Spot Cream.
This G-spot arousal cream has an illustrated guide to help you and your partner take full advantage of this amazing cream. It gives you concise and simple tips on how to discover your G-Spot and find the hidden road to your most sacred place.
The Fifi rabbit vibrator has a slender neck that extends into a perfectly curved bulb. The design complements your natural shape for effortless pleasure that pulsates you on to ecstasy. The beauty of the Fifi is the flexible clitoral ears that stimulate the labia as well as the clit. This vibe has a sleek silicone design for uninterrupted pleasure that delivers a luxurious experience. You can explore the various vibration levels and intensities with a touch of two simple buttons – the ‘+’ and the ‘-‘ control 5 speeds while the ‘s’ allows you to power through 7 patterns with ease. With an explosive combination of internal and external pleasure, the Fifi promises a thrilling ride. This toy is every bit as luxurious as we’ve come to expect from Je Joue and we love the seamless sexiness for a smooth encounter.
This Je Joue rabbit vibrator is a perfect fit thanks to it’s curvy, contoured design. It delivers toe-curling sensations, from a low rumble to powerful pulsations. Three motors combine for triple the intensity – one in each ear and an ultra powerful motor to the tip.
The world of male sex toys has come a long way. No more are men having to masturbate into socks or make do with any old object that resembles a vagina. No – the options now are almost endless.
Men can choose from extenders, enlargers, sleeves, rings, vibrators, massagers and wonderful little devices called masturbators. The fact of the matter is that everyone masturbates, so there is no reason why you shouldn’t try and enjoy these sex toys. It’s a healthy habit.
Mutual masturbation is also a great way to grow trust and connection between couples, so we couldn’t recommend these toys highly enough. To start you off on your journey, these are the four sex toys we think you should try.
From top to glorious bottom, the Njoy Fun Wand is pure steely perfection. With a single ball to one end and three graduated balls to the other, this wand works him up to a potent prostate orgasm, but delivers intense G-spot stimulation, too. This is the perfect his and hers wand for shared partner pleasure! With a weighty body made from 100% stainless steel, this wand is a pleasure investment that deserves lifetime love.
Your prostate gland is as potent as a woman’s G-spot. This male gland is roughly the size and shape of a walnut and is located in your anus, just beneath the bladder and in the front of the rectum. If you stroke or massage your prostate gland during sex, you’ll enjoy incredibly intense and powerful orgasms. So powerful, in fact, that the prostate gland is even known as the male G-spot.
A prostate massager is designed to slip easily up the rectum and massage this very spot. The shape is similar to a finger: the toys have a slightly curved head to reach the gland. Some prostate massagers also vibrate for extra sensations.
To reiterate: prostate stimulation results in orgasms a lot more pleasurable than those you experience from just penile stimulation (some say they have orgasmed from prostate stimulation alone), so it’s definitely worth exploring this area.
Keen to try it out? We recommend the Loki Prostate Massager.
These rainbow cock rings are hypoallergenic and super stretchy – their multicoloured design makes every encounter a playful one.
Cock rings are magical little creations. They are worn around the base of the penis to restrict blood flow away from your erection, resulting in a harder and longer erection and even increased stamina. Cock rings are available in many materials, shapes and sizes and can be worn during sex to enhance both yours and your partner’s enjoyment.
You can also slip it on before using a penis pump which will give you long-lasting results. Vibrating cock rings perform the same function, but also provide you with incredible vibrations that both you and your partner can enjoy.
Try the Coco de Mer George love ring for some sophisticated vibrating loving, or the Force Cock and Ball Ring for an impressive erection. Something like a Steel Ring feels amazing against your skin and are non-porous and easy to clean.
We’re talking Fleshlight, Tenga, the Pulse and the Cobra.
Fleshlight: A fleshlight resembles a flashlight (hence the name), and contains a sleeve of flesh-like material which is used for solo play. This inner sleeve can mimic a vagina, mouth or anus and is available in 48 textures and in a variety of colours.
It’s really no wonder the Fleshlight is the world’s number 1 selling sex toy for men. The Real Feel Superskin masturbation sleeves are made from exceptional quality material which replicates the feeling of penetrative sex.
Tenga: The Fleshlight makes super realistic sex toys. Tenga, on the other hand, makes creative and trendy masturbation devices which look anything but real – but feel absolutely incredible. These high-end masturbators are made by a company who aims to make masturbation (a completely normal and healthy activity) more acceptable and mainstream.
There is no way you can look at one of these toys without wanting one! They are so lovely, they’ve even been awarded with an industrial design award.
Pulse: The Pulse 3 Solo offers an instant upgrade on your Guybrator – it’s 25% more powerful and now features a Turbo button that takes you to maximum power instantly. This vibrator oscillates, sending intense stimulation to his nerve-rich areas. We love that it can be used with a flaccid penis, making it a great option for men who experience erectile dysfunction.
The Cobra: The Cobra Libre 2 is a personal massager designed to focus on the head of the penis, where it hugs the tip for a perfect fit. Two quiet, powerful motors combine to massage the penis head – delivering vibrations to your most sensitive area for a pleasure packed rumble that really revs your engine. The extra soft velvety silicone interior promises plush pampering for your penis. It can be used with just one hand and doesn’t require any up or down movement to deliver pleasure.
Great for couple’s play, cock sleeves can be very useful for men who have trouble maintaining an erection. Like a cock ring, sleeves are designed to trap blood in the penis, but they also enhance the sexual experience for you and your partner.
Cock sleeves increase the girth or length of your penis and many of them include knobs, rubber spikes and other amazing textures that will give completely new sensations to sex. Have a look at the Fat Boy Extender Sleeve, the Deep Vibe Vibrating Sleeve or the Vibrating Penis Extension Sleeve for some great ideas.
And there you have it. The top four toys you should try. If you need any more inspiration, advice or help, visit www.matildas.co.za.
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The Amazing Positions You Can Try With A Sex Swing!
We’ve all been mesmerised by the idea of weightless sex. Can you imagine? Aerial bondage and orgasms? Come on! Who wouldn’t want to try it!
We’ve got two types of swings available – one which attaches to a ceiling and the other which attaches to a door. Check them out here:
- The door frame swing – the Fetish Door Slam Love and Steamy Shade Swing, as the name suggests, is fitted to a door frame.
- The Multi-Vario Love Swing is anchored to the ceiling.
NOW FOR THE FUN STUFF! SWING SEX POSITIONS!
The Swinging Chandelier
This one really makes the saying ‘swinging from the chandelier’ a full-blown reality. So the person with the penis (orstrap-on) gets to sit in the swing while the receiving partner sits in their lap – facing them.
The Flying Carpet
Also known as Swing 69. One partner sits in the swing and leans all the way back while the other partner straddles their face. You need to bend down real low to pleasure one another.
Go for the ultimate deep thrust experience with a traditional missionary position – with a twist. Have her sit in the swing, legs spread, and mount her from the front. The suspension creates a new sexual dimension.
Swing Doggy Style
This position is ideal for penetration for vaginal or anal sex. One partner has to lie in the swing, face down, while their partner enters them from behind.
Merry Go Round
This position needs the Multi-Vario Love Swing as the idea revolves around one partner lying down on the floor, while the other, in the swing, lowers themselves onto their penis (or dildo). Take it for a spin! Some advice – you will need a lot of lube for this one.
Back to the door swings. This super position has one partner sitting in the swing, legs spread and feet in the straps. For added kink, bind their wrists – try handcuffs or restraints and have an amazing go while suspended AND tied up.
You can take turns with this positions. One partner gets to languish in the swing while the other performs oral – taking the never-before opportunity of being able to rock back and forth. Lean back. Relax. Enjoy.
All alone and can’t play on your swing? Think again! The sex swing offers a new masturbation experience, especially if you’re pleasuring yourself with a sex toy. Take yourself for the ultimate joy ride!