Sex Positions for Men and Women
When did you last try a new sex position? Whether or not you’re in a relationship, it’s all too easy to fall back on a handful of tried-and-tested moves and forget the delicious variety available to you and your partner.
Missionary Sex Positions
Ahhh, Missionary. Traditionally considered the “default sex position,” Missionary offers lots of advantages to first-timers and people looking for sex that’s more on the vanilla side. However, there are lots of slight variations on it that can amp things up in terms of the pleasure, the intensity and the kink factor — for both partners. Check out these Missionary-inspired versions:
The Missionary position (man on top, couple facing each other) is the most famous and classic of all positions. The eye contact, the mild male dominance and the angle of penetration make this a popular one, and odds are, the first time you had sex was in Missionary. A very comfortable option that allows for easy thrusting, and an easy pull-out if you’re a man, there’s plenty of benefits to it and it’ll work its way into basically any sexual encounter you find yourself in, at some point.
Coital Alignment Technique
Another spin on Missionary, the Coital Alignment Technique (C.A.T.), aka the Frog or the Perfect Position, looks to sacrifice elevation and power for proper alignment. Start in regular Missionary, and then flatten your torso as much possible, while your partner should arch her legs and put her legs on your butt. What you’re doing here is targeting the clitoris for more direct rubbing and friction. The pressure you put on her clitoris could help her get to orgasm quicker. You should also be staying nice and deep within her in the C.A.T. too, to ensure maximum penetration. In other words, this one is more for her pleasure than yours.
Legs On Shoulders
A classic take on Missionary, this one can either be done with you lying down on top of her, or with her positioned at the edge of the bed and with you in standing (or more accurately leaning in) with her legs on your shoulders as you go into her. This position gives the man all of the control of penetration, but it will also allow you to penetrate more deeply, so it’s a win-win. You may need to grasp her legs and pull in gently to prevent your thrusting from pushing her away from you.
Swivel And Grind
If you’re working with a little bit less than the average man, the Swivel and Grind is your friend. Instead of the ol’ in-and-out pumping, which is actually better for you than it is for her. Instead, once you’re inside her, use your hip rotation to grind and twist inside of her, pressing your shaft as hard as you can against her clitoris. The friction and pressure will be what brings her to orgasm, no matter what your size. To get maximum closeness, Missionary with legs on shoulders works best. You may also want to consider propping up her hips on a pillow or wedge (you can find specially made ones) to create the perfect angle.
Doggy-Style Sex Positions
Dogs, it turns out, are more than just our best friends. They’ve also figured out a pretty good way to get it on. Doggy-Style and other variations where you’re doing your partner from behind offer you a lot of control, and while they’re typically less intimate than Missionary or its variations, sometimes that’s exactly what you (or your partner) are looking for. Doggy variations allow for all kinds of positioning possibilities, as each person can be standing, kneeling, or lying down; it can be good for role play where staring into each other’s faces might ruin the illusion; and it typically means both of you have the option to stimulate the woman’s clitoris. What’s not to love?
Doggy-Style is a favorite for millions of people for a few reasons. It’s the classic female submissive position and really lets the man be in control, and there’s more than a few variations on it. In its simplest form, you kneel on the bed, with your partner on all fours. Enter her from behind, and hold onto her hips and/or torso. You can decide to go slow or hard. If you want to add some roughness, and your partner is into that, Doggy is a solid option that allows for you to pull her hair or spank her as well, provided she enjoys that. If you have a free hand, a clitoral reach-around or playing with her breasts can add extra stimulation, too.
This position not only accesses the G-spot and the A-spot to create squirting orgasms but it’s also comfortable for the female partner after switching into several positions. Backdoor planking is a position where the female partner lies on her stomach with her legs close together, and is penetrated from behind. This position requires little work on her behalf, but feels amazing because her legs are placed closely together which creates a tighter entry for him and increased sensation for her.
Spooning is one of the “cuddliest” of all the positions, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make it intense. You lie on your side, with your partner in front of you, facing away. Enter her from behind, and then both of you can control the pace and depth of thrusting. Spooning is comfortable; it’s great for longer sexual sessions with a lot of sensual touching and kissing of the back of the neck. You can also get quite handsy and reach around the play with her nipples or even reach down and add extra stimulation to her clitoris from the front, and it also works great as an anal option.
It’s a variant of the Doggy-Style position we are all familiar with. The man stands on the floor at the edge of the bed, and the woman gets into the typical Doggy-Style kneeling pose on the bed. After the man has entered his partner he pulls her up towards him so that she is now kneeling at the edge of the bed, instead of being an all fours. He supports her with one hand wrapped around her torso. This position is great because it allows you to get that deep penetration so many love about Doggy-Style, but you’re more connected with your partner because her whole body is up against you. Added benefits are that you can pull her hair, see her face, and also whisper nasty things into her ear, all at the same time, since you have one free arm. It’s intense, intimate, and feels good!
Bent-Over Standing Doggy
This standing twist on Doggy-Style takes some serious flexibility and commitment, but if you’re up for it (or down for it) it can be a fun addition to your roster of positions. This is also a great choice if you’re trying to get it on in public without being caught — she can completely dip down behind a bush or parked car for cover.
Probably one of the first positions you learned, there’s more than a few reasons why the Cowgirl is one of the most popular positions in the world. You get to lie back and get a simply wonderful view of your partner moving up and down; she gets excellent clitoral stimulation and a lot of control of depth and penetration. Penetration-wise, this is arguably the quickest way for a woman to get an orgasm, although quite a bit more difficult for you. Use your free hands to massage her breasts, and if the two of you want to add an element of dominance despite her being on top, you can place your fingers gently around her neck.
A classic, the reverse Cowgirl puts the man on the bottom and has the woman straddling him facing away. She can control the angle of penetration here, and the man gets a great view of her from behind. If you want to change things up, arch your knees up to give her something to easily push off of. If you want to make eye contact and get a view of her from the front, doing this in front of a mirror could turn up the heat a little bit.
Woman Lying On Top
This position requires a lot of exertion on the woman’s part but could be very intense; it can also work for anal sex, and give her a lot of control in that scenario. It’s pretty self explanatory; you lie flat on your back hold her by the hips or butt, while she partly props herself up using her elbows and legs, arching her back and placing her shoulders and shoulder blades on your chest. Then she lowers herself up and down, to control how deeply you move in and out of her. To prevent her from getting tired, help her by supporting her butt and taking some of the weight.
The Waterfall is a variation on the popular Cowgirl position, but packs a super-sized climactic punch. Start by laying on the couch or bed with your head near the edge and your partner on top of you, but instead of riding you from her knees, she’ll need to lean back and shift her weight to her feet. Once she’s got the stance down, inch toward the edge of the bed or couch, letting your head and shoulders slide off onto the ground while your hips remain elevated. If you’re on a couch, drape your legs over the back of the seat or simply let your knees fall open. From here, your partner has complete control over the speed, depth and intensity of her gyrations, not to mention a free hand to use as she wishes — clitoral stimulation, anyone? There are a couple of ways to execute this pose: You can either use it as a bridge while building to orgasm, or moving into it right before the big finale. Either way, this position will cause the blood to rush to your head (and your other head) for an explosive climax. (Now you’ll understand why it’s called the Waterfall)
Sitting & Kneeling Sex Positions
Of course, standing positions aren’t for everyone. If the two of you don’t match up well height-wise, sitting or kneeling positions can be more comfortable and intimate, while also offering some new and unique options for getting it on.
Sex expert Lindsay Tigar says: In case bedroom sex has got you bored, familiarize yourself with some good old chair sex. Sitting in a sturdy chair where both of your feet can touch the floor, have her straddle you (facing toward each other) and let her lower herself on top of you. Similar to the Cowgirl position, she can move herself up and down, or just grind on your junk.
Nick Hawk, star of Showtime’s reality show Gigolos says: With “The Lover,” the man sits at the end of the bed and the woman straddles him. Both of these allow deep penetration and extra skin-to-skin contact.
Another position that’s all about intimacy, kneeling sex can be rewarding if pulled off right.
We’d suggest finding a cushion, pillow or yoga mat to take some of the strain off your knees. This one also works best if the man isn’t too much taller than the woman; if you’re 6’3” and your partner is 5’5”, this might not work. You kneel, placing your left outstretched knee to the left of the woman and your right leg behind you. The woman does the same. To get penetration, you should try to lower your pelvis beneath your partner’s (hence why this might be difficult for taller folk) and slip your penis into her vagina. Once you’re inside her, this position becomes easier, as she rocks her pelvis back and forth until you both get off. If your balance is good enough, there’s also potential for a bit of anal or nipple play with your hands.
Kneel And Deliver
Another kneeling position, this one also doesn’t requirea bed or even nice surface to do your thing on. You get on your knees, resting your ass on your hamstrings. Have her sit down slowly until you enter her, with her wrapping her arms around you for added balance. While this one looks uncomfortable, the angle and stability actually mean this one can be reasonably intense, while providing eye-to-eye contact and a “do-it-anywhere” convenience.
A kneeling position for the man, the bridge gives you a wonderful view of her breasts and torso while demanding a lot of her physically. While she creates an
arch with her arms and legs, you kneel in front of her and penetrate her. She won’t be able to do too much moving, aside from keeping herself upright, so your job is to grab her ass and start pulling her hips back and forth to get the necessary motion to make the whole thing work. Supporting her ass with your hands a bit will also take some of the strain off her arms.
She lays on her back with her hips off the bed. Her legs can either be wrapped around his hips, her feet can be flat on the floor or she can have her knees bent up to her breasts. This position allows for her to control the angle of penetration with her hips and both of them have hands free to explore one another and make sure the clitoris isn’t ignored. Plus, he can control the depth and speed of penetration that works for them both. This position also promotes intimacy through ease of eye gazing and kissing […] and it promotes communication because you see one another’s responses to stimulation.
Unusual Sex Positions
Sex, being the diverse and crazy thing that it is, can’t neatly be divided into six simple categories. So of course this list has to include a section for all the weird, wild wet and wacky positions that simply don’t fit anywhere else. Are you looking to try something a little bit outside the box, to cross a few more things off your bucket list, to mix in some furniture or to add some serious spice to the relationship? This is the section for you.
This one is all about her upper body strength and your back and leg strength. Barring some kind of Olympian training you each have, this is probably a bit of a transition position rather than anything that’s going to lead to long-lasting sex or orgasm. Have her start on all fours, and then you lift up her pelvis until her vagina is in line with your penis. Grasp her around her hips firmly and thrust into her. Rather than having her try to do vertical pushups, or you pulling her back and forth, both of which are liable to tire you out, do the work with your hips. The position can actually be quite interesting for her clitoris.
Sex expert Tyomi Morgan says: This one requires a bathtub big enough to accommodate the size of both partners and can be enhanced by lighting a few candles and adding some champagne. It is important to only fill the bathtub up half way to avoid overflow when you both sit down. In this position, the male partner sits in the tub with his legs extended and gets to relax. The female partner sits on top of her partner and puts in the work. She can sit with her back facing him or face him positioned on her knees or with her feet flat in the tub. The water in the tub can wash away natural lubricant, but the feeling of the water between both bodies will feel amazing!
Sex In A Hot Tub
Is there a specific position for the hot tub? Probably not, but it’s a natural place for sex; you’re already in close contact with people wearing very little other clothing anyway. In addition to the jets of a hot tub being a wonderful masturbatory aid for women to get her started (you can also fondle her nipples and lend a hand as well), there are benches all around for the man to sit on. Remember, finish quickly though: you don’t want to be in there for more than 20 minutes.
To be honest, aside from the awesomeness of the name, you might find this one a bit challenging. Scissoring involves you intertwining your legs together, and placing yourself at something approaching a 90-degree angle to each other. Insert yourself into your partner, and then move your hips to thrust in and out. You’ll need to do this slowly and carefully, as it’s pretty easy to slip out while scissoring. This position is pretty unique because it involves very little eye contact, and places your heads pretty far away from each other, and your body position is such that you can’t really use your hands to fondle her in any way. Little eye contact, a lot of distance, and difficult thrusting make this one a toughie, but sexually experienced couples should give it a go just for the novelty.
Though “scissoring” is a real thing as well, this position requires a bit of twisting to make it happen and some knee endurance. Perfect for the woman to be fully comfortable and let herself go, this puts the man in full command of how fast and how deep he wants to penetrate. As with all such kneeling positions, this one is going to seriously test your leg muscles and how cramp-proof you are, but the effort is always worth it.
Most positions are have your bodies lined up more-or-less; here, this one involves putting the “d*ck” into perpendicular. Have her start off by lying on her back, you lie on your side, and penetrate her from the side. This sort of thing either works best on a nice comfy floor or a queen or king-size bed, but you’ll need a fair bit of real estate to pull this off. Once you’re inside her, you control the pace and depth of the thrusting. This position is a little bit less popular because it’s less obvious and doesn’t provide as intense or intimate experience as some of the others, but it allows you to shake things up. Additionally, because often men’s penises are wider than they are tall, this means that by effectively turning your penis sideways you can better target her clitoris.
Sort of a cross between the T-position and Spooning, this one features the woman on her back while her partner, lying on his side, cradles her and penetrates her from below. It’s a very cuddly option that allows for a decent amount of tenderness (and the whispering of sweet nothings, or dirty talk, depending on what you’re into), plus it’s a great way to switch things up if your partner’s most comfortable on her back and you’re sick of missionary-style positions.
The Sit ‘N’ Spin
This position uses the vibrations of your washer or dryer to add a little extra kick to your sexual experience. Sit on the edge of the machine while it’s running (spin cycle works best on a washer), and then have her mount you in Cowgirl position, or with her legs wrapped around. From there, she should feel the vibrations running through your penis, making her orgasm all the better. Best of all? Once you’re done, you’ll have clean clothes to change into.